Thursday, April 22, 2010

Evan strapped to our spanking bench

I have promised some pictures of Evan strapped to our spanking bench. Here are a few, as promised.

I really like our spanking bench because Evan is completely immobile there: he can't move out of the way at all, as he tends to do when I am spanking him over my lap. Typically, when I spank Evan on the bench, I like to spank him for fixed periods of time, starting with one minute, and working up to 2-3 minutes, depending on my mood. (You can see in many of these pictures that I am holding a watch.) The total spanking time will range from 6 to 10 or more minutes (which is quite a long time, if you ask Evan). I use a variety of implements, including paddles, straps and canes. The pictures below show a few of the spanks from the first minute of a bench spanking. I can usually get in between 60 and 100 spanks each minute, and sometimes more, if I want to. Evan has counted over 150 in a minute of some spankings on the bench that we have filmed. That's about as fast as I can spank, while keeping up the intensity of each spank.

I am using a lexan paddle in this part of his spanking. As I mentioned in an earlier post, I never bother spanking with my hand: I can't hurt Evan that way. I always use some kind of implement when spanking, even when just starting out. And as I have stated earlier, I never spank lightly. Although I don't spank as hard as I possibly can all the time, I try to swing hard with each spank. It's especially easy for me to spank hard when Evan is strapped to the bench because (a) he can't move out of the way; and (b) I have a free range of motion, without him getting in the way, as he does when he is over my lap.

As you can see, Evan is completely immobile when he is strapped to the bench. His legs, arms and body are secured tightly, so he cannot move at all. The bench is well padded, so it's perfectly comfortable until I start spanking. But there is no pain from the bench itself. I can leave him strapped there for an hour or more, with no pain other than a bruised bottom.

You can also see that Evan is naked when I strap him to the bench. After he is strapped down, I sometimes play with his penis and balls in this exposed position, until he is very erect. I then spank away the erection, which takes a surprising amount of time, given all the noise that he makes.

I did not touch him before this spanking, however, and so his penis is tucked well underneath him.

This was one of the first spanks. I like the nice rippling effect on his bottom. Unfortunately, the color is not very good in this video. The light in the room wasn't ideal for filming. I have found that our camera picks up the color of Evan's spanked bottom best using natural daylight, but this spanking was in the evening, lit by lights in the room.

You can see from the ripples on his bottom that I am spanking hard. Also, notice that he is already squirming from side to side, as much as he can (which isn't much). You can also see the tip of his penis making an appearance as he moves himself forward and backward on the bench a little bit.

In this last series of shots, you can see that Evan is shifting around as much as he can, trying to avoid the paddle. He is unsuccessful: I can spank him exactly where I want to.

In this last pair of shots, you can see that Evan's bottom is starting to get red after many spanks. The color in the video really didn't do this spanking justice: his bottom was red at this point (and was soon to get redder). You can also see him arching his back as much as the bench will allow him to, so that you can see the back of his head in the first picture. He was in a lot of distress at this point in the spanking, yelling to me to please stop.

Evan tells me that the first minute on the bench is usually the worst, and, judging by the noise he makes, I believe him. I can see that he tries to take it "like a man" as best as he can when we start, but the spanks clearly hurt a lot. By around ten seconds or so (10 or more spanks), he usually calls out to stop, or to not spank so hard. Unfortunately for him, this is just the beginning. By the time we get to around 20 seconds (20-30 spanks), he is yelling more freely, starting to beg me to stop and give him a break. But I never give him such a break. I like this time very much, while he is exposed and immobile, begging me to stop. His yelling lets me know that I am doing a good job. He often starts really yelling loudly at about 30 seconds through, but I don't slow down at all. As he yells more, I usually advise him that it's ok for him to yell, and that perhaps if he starts to cry, he will feel better. In any case, I just keep spanking until the allotted time is up.

Ironically, Evan bought this bench for me because he wanted to feel what it was like to give up control completely. Because he is so much bigger and stronger than me, I can't hold him down to give him a spanking as I wish: it's really up to him if he wants to stop it at any point. And, in practice, he will in fact stop me if it's too much, as you can see in the pictures in previous posts. When Evan squirms so much, I end up having to stop to get him back in position. Our bench eliminates any possibility of him being able to stop the spanking. He has to take what I give him, when I say. This is exciting to both him and me. It is very exciting for me to have him there at my mercy.

As one might imagine, Evan says that it is scary being strapped to the bench before a spanking, waiting for the spanking to start. I can tell that he is nervous then. He says that it is unbearable being spanked like that, tied down, with no hope of escape until I say it's over. He says that the pain is hard to describe. If he could remember it, I doubt he would get back on the bench for later trips. But there is clearly something exciting for him there, because he always returns.

Ok, that's enough for now. Posting really takes a lot of time! Please post your comments. I appreciate the feedback.

Love to all,



  1. Deirdre-
    Of course we much appreciate your posts. Please continue. Its especially good to get the perspective of a woman who spanks her man!

    There is something especially exciting about giving up all control and letting your Lady stap you in for the spanking of your life. I have a spanking bench under contruction. It both exciting and rather intimidating about the possiblity of finish it and turning it over to her.

    One comment about the color in your pix. Perhaps you need to look into the color temperature setting on your camera. This can be calibrated with a plain white sheet of paper. I would suggest e-mailing me off line if you want to look into this further but it will make a difference.
    Ken (SpankedbyWife)

  2. Dear D.
    Thank you very much. This is very interesting and fantastic. I strapped and whipped my husband Peyman same to your operation. Can you upload a short film about your husband strapping?
    Kiss you

  3. Ma’am

    Thank you so much fort hat detailed report of Evan’s spanking over the bench! Receiving non-stop rapid swats for a prefixed length of time is something I too dread very much. Fortunately my wife does not do that very often to me, but hearing how much satisfaction you derive from it, I should probably sum up my courage and suggest to her to do it more often.

    We too have a spanking bench or rather a ‘spanking horse’ which we had constructed to measure a few years ago. It is larger than yours and I cannot straddle it like Evan does but have to bend across it. My wrists and ankles will then be fixed to the structure’s legs, but the rest of my body is not fixed and “free” to move – within limits. This way my bottom – including the tender flanks – and upper legs are fair game for my wife’s punishment implements.

    When my wife does timed spankings she uses a kitchen timer which buzzes when time is over rather than a watch. This way she can fully concentrate on the spanking and does not have to keep an eye on the watch. Sometimes – much to my dismay – she does not stop immediately when the timer sounds!

    I really like those pictures. I remember from past comments that some readers of the blog do not like the covered faces of your earlier pictures. Well, I don’t either, but I am not complaining: I gratefully take what you are giving to us, thank you for that, there’s plenty of pictures in the web for those who need to see faces. Personally, however, the sight of a well spanked bare bottom is exciting enough!


  4. Thanks for the wonderful pictures of your naughty boy getting it on his bare behind! It must be fantastic to be so totally at your mercy. Your husband is a very lucky man indeed!!

  5. Thank you for your postings. I understand that it can take a LONG time to post, so I appreciate the hard work and the vulnerable sharing. I'm glad you enjoy us looking into your spanking episodes, and it's great to see the pictures on the spanking bench!
    Merci! Danke! Gracias! etc

  6. Well D you seem to have it all under control lol. From the erotic which i prefer. To serious when needed.

  7. Dear D:
    I hope that your husband thanks God every day that he has you as his wife. I've been searching for a spanking relationship for several years, yet I still haven't found one, eventhough I'm an easy going, educated, good looking Chicago guy. I've always said that every couple should have a spanking bench in their basement or attic. The divorce would certainly decrease substantially if more wives practiced consentual domestic discipline.


  8. Do you scold or tease your husband when spanking him ??

    What do you say to him....are you laughing at his discomfort ??

    1. maybe spread his butt cheeks for some humiliation.

  9. My wife wants me to build us a spanking bench. She is very much like you

  10. I am a 25 year old girl and a sub but I have befriended another woman who takes her husbsnd in hand and she directed me to your site. In a spare room of her house she and her husband have a spanking bench not unlike the one you posted. Although I have never seen him punished she assures me that his bottom winds up scarlet after she is finished with him. The relationship is totally consensual and she says she derives pleasure watching as he writhes within the confines of his constraints during his punishments. She says she loves him but she still enjoys seeing him suffer and this is something he wishes as well. On several occasions I was invited to dinner at their house and was invited to ask him quite intimate questions about his thrashings and paddlings and he is required to answer. I have to admit I enjoy this and I can tell from the expression on his wife's face that she enjoys listening to the exchange. Thank you so much for the pictures. My friend says she is condidering allowing me to witness her husbsnd's punishment or at least see the consequences on his bottom but that has not yet occurred.