As many of you have noticed, I am trying Evan on longer-term orgasm denial. This is not as a punishment for Evan: this is just because I have noticed that Evan behaves better in general when he is horny. It's been three weeks now, and Evan's behavior has been exemplary. I milked his prostate after 2 weeks (on the bench last week), and now I think it's about time for another milking. I think I will milk him once per week, following the initial 2 week buildup, and I will see how that goes.
We have actually experimented with orgasm denial in the past, and we used to find that Evan gets too horny after a week or 10 days to be productive at work. However, this time, things seem to be different. Now that I am strict with Evan, I have been spanking him a lot for misbehavior, which includes whining about wanting a release. A hard spanking before bed seems to get rid of his erection just as well as an ejaculation does. So far so good: most critically for me, I want to see how Evan's work progresses. As long as he gets a sufficient amount accomplished at his work, I will continue this experiment. I think I will keep him like this for at least another couple of weeks. But if that goes well, I am not sure I will give him an orgasm then: I just don't know how it will progress at this point. I don't want to make plans without seeing the results of this pilot experiment.
I am very much enjoying reaping the rewards of the stricter version of me. I have taken to have Evan give me massages 2-3 times per week, before bed. I adore massages, so I don't know why I didn't take advantage of our relationship in this respect years ago. In any case, I take off all my clothes except my panties, and have Evan give me a full rub down. Eventually, my panties usually come down too, because Evan gives me a deep lower back / upper bottom massage. And the massages make me very relaxed and horny. As soon as I am satisfied with the massage, I often have Evan lick my pussy to orgasm (as I have mentioned before, he is wonderful at this). He always has a big erection after all this close sexual contact, and sometimes I will let him fuck me for a while from behind (my favorite) because it feels so good (especially after an orgasm). But, at the moment I am not allowing him to orgasm this way (or any way), so I have been careful of only having a short fuck post-cunnilingus. In fact, I am a little worried that he will have a spontaneous fast ejaculation while fucking me one of these times. I am trying to avoid that by milking his prostate regularly. So far so good!
Here are some more photos of Evan's recent bench spanking. As you can see, I like holding his penis when he is on the bench, when I spank him. This gives him mixed signals, and I enjoy the reaction. Eventually the pain of the spanking wins out, but it takes a while for the blood to drain from his swollen penis: I enjoy the hard spanks I can give him while he still has a hard erection.
Deirdre
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| I have a good grip on this situation. (Sorry.) |
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| I love to squeeze this thing. What a great toy! |
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| Some gentle touches to the tip. (You can see that this was actually earlier in the spanking: there are just a few red welts from my paddle here.) |
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| That will leave a mark! |
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| I can spank Evan while holding his penis out of the way (not that this is strictly necessary). You can see by my arm and the ripple on Evan's bottom that this was a hard spank. |
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| Here comes another hard one, Evan! |
Hi, Deirdre... If you're desirous of a good long fuck but are worried that Evan can't handle it, try applying a generous coating of a numbing gel to his penis, let it go work for several minutes, clean off any excess, and have him slide it in.
ReplyDeleteCH uses Anbesol on me, and then adds a condom over it to desensitize me further and be sure that there is no transfer of the anaesthetic to her sensitive parts.
Virtually all feeling on the surface of the penis is gone, and I'm able to fuck her long and hard, just like I used to be able to do, in our pre-chastity days. On occasion, the lack of stimulation has caused me to lose my erection, but it doesn't happen often enough to worry about.
I'd suggest that you'd both feel very satisfied by the results. You, because you're likely going to be stimulated well, and if you orgasm through intercourse, have a good come. Evan, because he'll have a strong sense of accomplishment, giving you pleasure, without disappointing you by ejaculating.
It's been over 6 months since my last orgasm, and while we don't have intercourse all that often, numbing gel is definitely a tool that allows it to happen whenever the urge strikes CH.
Harry
Hi Harry:
DeleteThanks for the tip! I will keep this in mind.
Deirdre
Deirde,
ReplyDeleteWow, just read the other response, don't get that but was wondering have you ever allowed Evan to cum on the bench?
Always
Ron
No, never yet. But I have prostate-milked him on the bench (including during the most recent benching). Someday I will give him a handjob on the bench, and then spank him. He won't forget that one!
DeleteDeirdre
Deirdre,
DeleteSomeday we won't forget it either!!!
Always
Ron
Hi Deirdre,
ReplyDeleteI think you are doing the right thing by going for long term denial. Men often exaggerate their need to orgasm. They can handle long term denial, but "want" to cum so they try every trick on the book to try to get you to let them.
If he was able to stay focused at work, how long would you want to make him wait?
Jennifer
Hi Jennifer:
DeleteIf Evan showed no ill effects of long-term denial, I would start with one ejaculation per month, and see how that goes. But I am worried about doing this experiment without knowing the consequences. I am still unsure about this.
Deirdre
Wow, I've never imagined.
ReplyDeleteAren't you worried about Evan's cul-de-sac having a traffic jam?
Poor Evan!
;-),
ricky
Yes, actually, I am worried about that. I don't want to damage my man's penis and equipment for the long run. So I am concerned about this. We will see how it goes.
DeleteDeirdre
Hi Deirdre, i am kept in long term orgasm denial, and am currently about 4.5 months without one. No need to worry about any damage, it won't happen. I still work fine when allowed an orgasm
DeleteI guess that your husband is keen to get home each night and that he does not stop for a beer with his mates.
ReplyDeleteEvan and I work near each other, so we commute to and from work together. He has mates, but he and I spend most of our free time together. This relationship style --spending all of our time with each other -- isn't for everyone, but it works well for us.
DeleteDeirdre
Such a lovely delicious bottom! Not sure exactly what the milking does. Is it similar to an orgasm? You have so much love between the two of you and I can feel it here.
ReplyDeleteMary
Hi Mary:
DeleteI push a dildo in Evan's bottom and massage his prostate area firmly for around 10 minutes. This causes his penis to drip with the backed up semen and prostatic fluid. I can get about 1/2 - 2/3 of what he would ejaculate this way. You can read about it here:
http://spankingmyhusband.blogspot.com/2012/09/deirdres-guide-to-prostate-milking.html
This causes him not to have wet dreams. But it doesn't curb his excitement.
Deirdre
Do you ever have Evan 'spread himself' so you can in there at his 'tender bits'?
ReplyDeleteYes, I have just started doing this in spankings over my knee. I actually spread one of his cheeks with one hand and then spank the tender area with the other hand using my paddle. He doesn't like this at all!
DeleteDeirdre
Deidre,
ReplyDeleteI like your advice to me on your last post to try this orgasm denial on Bob. So consider it done and I will let you know how it goes. I also love these pictures of you giving Evan what I'm sure he deserves. I do have one question though and that is where did you get your (pursey)? It looks like something I would love to have and from reading some of Bob's replies I think he really wants to know how it feels, or maybe thinks he does. LOL Currently I have a short lexan paddle or hairbrush I use OTK and a longer lexan paddle or strap I use with him bent over. Like Evan he wants me to spank him but doesn't enjoy the actual spanking once it starts. Anyway thanks for the advice about withholding his orgasm and I'll let you know how it goes.
Dianne
Hi Dianne:
DeleteI am glad that you are having fun with Bob. Let me know how the orgasm denial works for him. I want to know!
I actually don't remember where I got pursey: Evan got it for me a long time ago, and I don't know which website he got it from. I think that this is it (from http://www.spanking-paddles.com/ ), but am not certain:
http://www.TheWilbourneGroup.com/Specialties/HickoryHairbrush.htm
Good luck with the spanking! I am glad you are enjoying it, as I do.
Deirdre
i agree with Jennifer's post - but may i add Deirdre have you 2 ever considered a chastity device such as a CB-3000 ?
ReplyDeleteMen can not be trusted to keep our hands away from our cocks no matter how hard we try - so locking him up would solve any desire to masturbate - you might think that "milking" him will drain that desire - but it does not
john
Hi John:
DeleteWe have actually tried the CB's before, and we don't really like them. We both like the idea, but they don't really work for Evan, or at least they haven't. Too much pinching, and his penis can pop out the top. So it's just an annoyance, which I am not interested in.
So we work with the trust method, and I do trust him. You may think he is possibly lying, but I know he isn't.
And yes, I know that milking his prostate doesn't take away his desire: that only gets some of his semen and prostatic fluid.
See my post:
http://spankingmyhusband.blogspot.com/2012/09/deirdres-guide-to-prostate-milking.html
Deirdre
Hey Deidre,
ReplyDeleteI agree I think Evan need to be kept in a chastity device
I'll bet he is masturbating on the sly:)
I know I would be!!!!
Hi WC:
DeleteNo, we don't like chastity devices, at least not the ones we have tried.
I trust Evan to tell me if he masturbates: he is very open with me.
Deirdre
Hi!
ReplyDeleteI don't know much about longer-term orgasm denial, I haven't tried it before - but I've always wanted to know what is the truth about prostate milking? I've read some blogpost about it, and on the "vanilla" side of the internet it is considered the most enjoyable and pleasurable thing in the male sexuality ("the male G-spot") - but on the other hand, I see that a lot of dominant women use this as a tool in their "orgasm denial" toolkit. Okay, I've read that the prostate orgasm is another type of sexual release, and it is different from the "traditional" male orgasm, but it is still a release, isn't it? I see some contradiction here.
And another -maybe silly- question: how could you prevent him from masturbation? Or is this game trust-based, so you are sure that Evan won't cheat? I know that there are a lot of women who put their partner into a lockable chastity device, even for a long time, but I don't know about the health-issues of this - I don't think it's a good idea. Especially, some of the devices such as the gadget called "Kali teeth" looks horrible for me.
Hi CP:
DeletePlease see my earlier post on prostate milking:
http://spankingmyhusband.blogspot.com/2012/09/deirdres-guide-to-prostate-milking.html
And yes, this is trust based. Please see my answers to very similar questions above.
Thanks for commenting,
Deirdre
Great pictures Deidre and Evan. I can tell what a special relationship the two of you share as do Dianne and I. Although she has never given my manhood that kind of attention during a spanking cause all my spankings are for punishment not pleasure. I'm not complaining cause that is what we agreed to that I would be spanked for offenses that I do. And I see she has already commented so for the record let me say that I don't need to see how a pursey paddle feels as I can only imagine from the marks on Evan's butt. And I also see now I'm going to get some orgasm denial. Not sure it will make me more attentive or better behaved but I'm sure it will make me more horny. But I gave her total control of our relationship so I'll go with it.
ReplyDeleteBob S.
Good luck, Bob! I hope you are super horny all the time! That's the idea.
Delete(I hope that this doesn't drive Dianne crazy, though. I don't mind when Evan is horny all the time: I like the attention he gives me.)
Deirdre
This blog is so informative! :)
ReplyDeleteI don't know how I would react to chastity because I have never had a very high libido anyway - just the way I'm made I guess. Regular spanking, though, seems to increase it. So if I was Evan, the increased strictness would make me more horny. As would the massages. But left to my own devices, I tend to disapear into my head and forget about such things.
Hi Scally:
DeleteYes, we are all different. It's amazing how different each of us are. I think it's fair to say that Evan has a high libido. I like keeping him even hornier (but I am unsure about the long term consequences of this...)
Deirdre
Well you've done it again, gotten me excited. As for long term denial I too would suggest a chastity device. You can still milk his prostrate. Please keep all of us informed about your thoughts on the idea.
ReplyDeleteSincerely,
Bill
Hi Bill:
DeleteAs I said above, we have tried chastity devices, but we weren't happy with the CB's. So we use a trust-based system.
Deirdre
He needs to be trained for regular fisting.
ReplyDeleteMilking becomes much easier.
Hi Jack:
DeleteThis sounds like an excellent idea. I will need to practice on you first. Please have an enema first, so you are all cleaned out. When can you be available?
Deirdre
Hi Ron:
ReplyDeleteYes, Evan adores me. I am happy about that, because I adore him too.
Deirdre
Fun pictures and a great post as always. As you mention here (and elsewhere) Evan needs an initial 2 week buildup in order for his prostate to be successfully milked. After that initial wait, you said you were thinking about milking him weekly. Do you have enough experience with milking at regular intervals to know what the minimum time between milkings can be? I guess it must depend on how much of the buildup is drained during each milking.
ReplyDelete--Robert
Deidre
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I do not like chastity devices as well.
Nothing fits him or it becomes unbearable to wear as his balls are squeezed.
The only chastity we like is from Rigid Chastity and it require a PA Piercing which he is getting very soon.
http://sissyandwife.blogspot.com/2018/06/rigid-chasitiy-looks-perfect-for-sissy.html
Once the PA heals I can lock it on him until choose to remove it.
Laurie
I might add we use the honor system too. No ejaculations unless given permission. And he must wear a condom to catch his semen so I can immediately freeze it for his later consumption. He eats it all now.
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