First, thanks to Evan for posting his thoughtful views on orgasm denial. I think our view of orgasm denial has moved a lot since we first tried out a female-led relationship. We first tried this as a route to Evan's perhaps listening to me more, and doing what I wanted, when I said so. But we found a different route to that goal, which was simply my being strict. So orgasm denial takes on a new function in our relationship: this is now just a way to play with Evan for my (and indirectly his) amusement.
(But as I have said earlier, I don't know the long-term effects of orgasm denial on a man, so I will allow Evan to orgasm every now and then, even when I generally may like to keep him denied.)
Here are the last few photos from the spanking that I was posting about earlier. Here, Evan is still figged, and I am spanking very hard. In the last photo, you can see that he is completely flopped out over my lap. He has completely given in to the spanking at this point, which is something that I like to bring about in him.
I am working hard early this week so that Evan and I can have a relaxing Thanksgiving, with no work stress later in the week. In case I don't write more this week, happy Thanksgiving to all you Americans out there. I hope that you boys get the spankings that you deserve (and need) and that you are appropriately thankful for them if you do!
Deirdre
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| more hard spanking for Evan! |
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| I am careful to spank evenly across each cheek |
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| That was a hard spank! |
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| Evan has finally given up, and flopped completely over my lap, giving in to the spanking. Good boy. |
And Happy Thanksgiving to you, Deidre and Evan!
ReplyDeleteThank you both, so very much, for your posts.
ricky
thanks, ricky!
DeleteDeirdre
Again great pictures Deidre and Evan. I especially like the last one where he is flopped over. I always take Bob to this point before I even think about ending his spanking. He realizes that he must accept his punishment willingly and completly accept the inevitable before it ends.
ReplyDeleteDianne
Thanks, Dianne!
DeleteDeirdre
again great pics and nice hard spanking seem like you make his ass red from every spankings and thanks i hope i get the spankings i need and desver but so hard finding a female to spank me for punishment and way i need to be spanked
ReplyDeletedo you have any video upload to where you do the spankings you mention video few time and any other spanking accounts any where
Mike
madison ohio age 41
Thanks for reading, Mike.
DeleteDeirdre
Hello Mrs Deirdre,
ReplyDeleteI am writing because my wife ordered, she sent word that the lady has inspired her to spank me, and here we are Brazilians beat their wives with leather slippers, which are always beyond the feet (with the hands), causing a striking effect (scary) and really hurt causing three or more days of brands, resulting in immediate obedience. She sent asking if the lady beats leather slippers on Evan? Hugs respectful,
Cassio
My wife beats the children (& me) with her slippers, her favorite is a Brazilian rubber haviannas (flip flop), it hurts like hell
DeleteAssem (Egypt)
We also use leather slipper, it is excellent in spanking also it gives total control as it is always there in my feet so just dangling (without even spanking yet) is enough threat to remind that I am in total control Because if he does not obey the slipper is there for on the spot spanking.
DeleteIf I am really angry, I sometimes slap his face with the slipper before knocking him over my knee knee for spanking.
Maria
Dear Cassio, Assem, Maria:
DeleteI have never spanked Evan with a slipper. I think "slippers" in our culture are soft, and not tough enough to be good spanking implements. If I come across good Brazilian slippers sometime, maybe I will get them as implements to spank Evan with.
Thanks for your comments, and sorry for the delay in responding.
Deirdre
Ouch!!!! That's a red butt. Great pictures though and I'm sure he learned a lesson.
ReplyDeleteBob S.
Definitely!
DeleteDeirdre
I do not think slipper spanking is popular where Deirdre & Evan come from, and I think she might even find it wierd / ineffective to use a slipper for spanking.
ReplyDeleteSlipper spankings are popular in UK, Latino & Medeteranian countries.
Perhaps Deirdre or Evan can explain on this issue
Tom
Exactly. Thanks Tom.
DeleteDeirdre
The best part of a long hard otk spanking is the giving in and slumping on the lap of a loving partner. Lucky man and wow, nice spanking.
ReplyDeleteHappy Thanksgiving.
Always
Ron
Thanks, Ron!
DeleteDeirdre
Thank you. Nice to see Evan flopped down, having given up total control.
ReplyDeleteAlso, the shade of pink matches between the two of you! :)
Happy Thanksgiving!
Thanks, SS!
DeleteDeirdre
Dear Ms Deirdre,
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry that I have come late to this discussion, but I have been busy at work and am only now catching up with my reading.
Can I exhort You please to continue with, and even extend, Your chastity regimen. As we are all well aware, enforced chastity makes much more obedient to their wives which can only be a good thing.
A period of two months or more without an orgasm does no harm to a man and if, as You do, You include regular milking this period can be extended almost indefinitely. However, 1-2 months is probably about right for most couples in a FLR - of course each couple is different and must find their own appropriate level (but if in doubt - extend it!).
The one thing I would say however is that You must not deprive Evan of the joy of pleasuring You. We submissive men need that more than we need our own orgasms. The danger is that, during long periods of chastity, we simply drift into not having sex at all. This, clearly, is not the point. Indeed, by making a point of having Evan pleasure You orally, whilst making it clear that he will not be having an orgasm, and that it is Your right as the superior partner in the relationship to have orgasms on demand, will only reinforce Your position as Head of the Household.
This is what You want, this is what Evan wants. Win-win!
Just my thoughts as a submissively-wired male (like Evan I suspect!).
Respectfully
Steve T
Hi Steve:
DeleteThanks for the comment, but I am not particularly hung up on chastity, as others in the femdom world are. I like Evan when he hasn't ejaculated in a while, but I am unsure that that is good for him. I would need a scientific study, with lots of good control conditions, before I would be convinced. (single participant examples don't count as scientific studies to me: I need quantitative evidence from lots of participants, with good control conditions).
Thanks,
Deirdre
Hope all is well
ReplyDeleteAlways
Ron
Yes, thanks for your concern, Ron.
DeleteDeirdre
L. got three major spankings over the long Thanksgiving weekend (and a few more later!), but I have plans to observe the "twelve days of Christmas" in my own way - using a different "tool" each day!
ReplyDeleteJ.
I still remember the way you "observed" them last year!
DeleteL.
Off to a good start this morning, with fifty sharp lashes of my favorite martinet!
DeleteMore to follow, my dear!
J.
The paddle on Wednesday, the maple switch on Thursday - and the strap later today!
DeleteThe skin of L's derrière - toughened as it is by consistent discipline - is already beginning to show some nice shades of crimson and purple!
J.
Five days later - and three more to go! I guess L. will need no more attention for a while after January 6 (but then, again...)
DeleteJ.
who are you guys?!?
DeleteI have an idea: You should start a blog!
I can help by advertising for you. Let me know.
Deirdre
Well, wife is away on trip... may need to give my own "maintenance spanking" :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for all you two do!
Sara
hi Sara:
DeleteHow did that go? Did you spank yourself? Cool!
I would like to watch Evan do that!
Deirdre
Any thoughts to extending Evan's submission by requiring him to shave smooth South of the Border or wear women's panties - perhaps as a run-up to a preannounced spanking?
ReplyDeleteHi anon:
DeleteWe have thought about shaving, but I don't care much for him wearing women's panties, so I don't think we will do that. (I have nothing against it, but it doesn't excite me at all.)
Deirdre
Deidre:
ReplyDeleteThere is no long term effect of orgasm denial on a man. My wife only allows me 4 to 6 orgasms a year, and she feels that even that amount is too many. She doesn't like the down time I experience after she allows me to cum.
I did check with my physician a few years ago. A woman doctor who knows everything. She asked about my sexual health and I told her that, June, my wife, limits my orgasms to a precious few, 4 to 6 a year. She said very professionally, "that is fine, many couples like to postpone a husbands orgasm. Your body will expel excess seminal fluid little by little, or all at once by having a noctural emission >" A wet dreram. I also told her I wear a chastity device much of the time, and again she has heard it all before. She said no problem as long as I can urinate freely and I experience no pain. "Frustration you will have and alot of it", she added. No one ever died from being too horny.
.My wife has a saying, " a horny husband is a good husband".
Hi AH:
DeleteAs I replied to Steve above, I would need real evidence of the safety of long-term chastity before embarking on that. When I say real evidence, I mean quantitative evidence from lots of participants, with good control conditions. That evidence doesn't yet exist, so I will hold off on my experiments with my most valuable asset, Evan.
Deirdre
Ms. Dierdre- Thanks to you and your red-bottomed hubby for the spanks and inspiration -- just stopping by to say Happy Holidays and New Year to you!
ReplyDeleteCD Sara
Thanks, Sara!
DeleteHappy new year to you!
Deirdre