Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Back to normal: spanking Evan

Hi everyone:

Thanks for all the nice comments on my pictures: I appreciate your kind words.  But to answer some of you, I am not submitting to any more spankings.  Many years ago, Evan spanked me a few times, because I wanted to try it.  I gave it a fair shot, allowing him to spank me a few times, pretty hard (only with his hand, however: I would never take a hairbrush or a paddle), but I really disliked it. Unlike Evan, I never liked it either before, during or after.  I did, however, really like spanking Evan. So that's what I will continue to do.

Here are a few stills from a recent spanking I gave Evan.  I have decided to spank Evan pretty regularly, just so that he keeps listening to me.  This was one of those occasions.

Hugs,

D
underpants down please

all the way down please

what do we have here?

I will have to spank that out of you

over you go

get that thing down between my legs

stay still and take your medicine

of course it hurts: it's meant to
if you move too much, it will just be longer for you
there: that was a good smack for you



26 comments:

  1. My wife will not take spankings either, except on an occasional basis when she has had too much to drink, but like you she is very happy to spank and cane her husband.

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    1. Ha ha! I would never take any kind of spanking any more, at all.

      I hope you give her a good spanking when she is drunk! That will teach her for agreeing to it!

      Deirdre

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  2. Dear Deirdre and Evan,

    Obedient Hubby here. Thanks for the new pics! Here are a few questions, to get some chat going:

    I have observed with great enthusiasm how wonderfully the two of you communicated with each other to contribute to the evolution of your relationship in a loving negotiation leading in a direction toward a totally genuine wife-led marriage.

    Just a few months ago, Deirdre wrote:

    “But we are still not quite a wife-led couple, because we do sometimes have conflicts, and those conflicts aren't simply resolved by me, as they would be in a true wife-led relationship.”

    “Evan will keep striving to be more of a wife-led man, and I applaud him for that. But I won't be disappointed if we end up as an equality-based couple. That's fine with me too.”

    This patient and generous approach by Deirdre made it possible for Evan to open up and ask for stricter consequences, and Deirdre seized the opportunity with the ear-pulling and (apparently) LOTS more really hard spanking and scolding.

    Fast forward to a more recent posting by Deirdre:

    “He can be in a foul mood, talking to me in a slightly condescending male way, and now bang, I grab his ear, and say, "Is that any way to talk to your wife? I don't like it: stop it right now and apologize." I am shocked to find out that this method *works* on him. 100% thus far: no signs of any rebellion when I grab his ear and twist a bit: no damage, but I make it hurt while I am talking to him. He of course is much bigger and stronger than me, and he could easily pull away and stop me from doing this, but he allows this without any resistance at all. This lets me know that I have found a weak point, and I now I plan to take advantage of it. I can see how it flusters and confuses him: he stutters about being sorry, and then he apologizes, and I let go, and we go back to a more normal state. I can see that he is strongly affected for a while after this. It is amazing to see: this big, muscly guy, bent a little sideways, with my ear in his hand, listening intently to my instructions. I have complete control over him like that, and it turns me on greatly

    In addition to working in normal life, the ear-pull has also worked at home to get Evan over my knee for a paddling, right when I wanted to give it to him, which surprised and elated me.”

    So, here are some questions: 1) have you had any marital arguments or cross words in the past month where Deirdre did NOT come out “on top?” And, 2) when is the ear pull leading to the bench? Sorry, Evan!

    All the best,

    O.H.

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    1. Hi OH:

      Ever since the famous ear-pull time, there have been *zero* times when Evan hasn't done what I told him to do. He was grouchy and disagreeable a couple of times, but each time, I have grabbed his ear or hair (the hair works better in the more difficult situations) and told him to behave or he would get a good paddling. He has always acquiesced so far. In addition, I have spanked him on numerous occasions in the past month, always exactly when I have said I would, and he has done as I asked. So all is great in our strongly wife-led marriage.

      The ear-pull has not led to a bench yet, but Evan will get a benching soon. It's about time. This will probably just be a maintenance bench spanking, but everything on the bench is pretty rough on Evan. I can't help myself, because he can't get in the way, and so I can get to work much more efficiently (in spite of the noise he makes).

      Best wishes to you too, OH,

      Deirdre

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  3. more great pictures Deirdra. I just have a quick question. is it more comfortable for you to spank him with his head going to the wrong side for a right handed spanker or it is something to do with the lighting. the quality of the shots is great so I am just wondering. Evan you are such a lucky guy.

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    1. Dear Tommy:

      I am not sure what you are asking: do I always spank the same way? I hadn't noticed. I guess we can try the other way. I just never noticed!

      Deirdre

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  4. Honestly ma'am, we can all think about it because your backside is just incredible but honestly, I love you as your man's lap, these are just amazing and hot pictures, him going on your lap, over you go, wow. You spank with such precision and compassion but with a very strict tone, wonderful. Your lap must be heaven to be over! Great otk classic spanking ma'am, thank you for sharing. Just hot.
    Always
    Ron

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    1. Hi Ron:

      I don't think that Evan thinks it is heaven to be over my lap: I think he thinks it is great in principle (and lovely to look at in pictures) but when it's there, he doesn't like to go over.

      That's ok: I want to make it tough for him.

      Deirdre

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    2. Well Deirdre, not sure, while we are over a loving and caring lap and in your case, sexy as hell, our minds to drift. While the spanking is going on yes I will admit sometimes it is like, why am I here but when we are being spanked and hit that zone, at least to me no matter how hard, it is a touch of heaven. Wonderful place to be.

      Well yes you do and he loves you for it. Amazing.
      Always
      Ron

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    3. Wonderful, one of my favorite posts and pics, just catching up and love to revisit some of your postings.
      Always
      Ron

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  5. He will never obey until he is subjected to regular fisting.

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    1. OMG! I don't think that that will happen regularly. I do have very small hands, but even so I have never tried fisting my man. Maybe some day, when he's strapped to the bench. But it doesn't really appeal to me: I would definitely need some good gloves!

      Deirdre

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    2. Did not ask, but not appealing here either.

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  6. Back again, great post, honestly is it not a wonderful feeling for you inside to see and feel his hard on, knowing it is because he is looking at you and about to be spanked by you over your wonderful lap? Must be heart warming to see and feel that.
    Always
    Ron

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    1. Well, yes, Ron, I love to see and touch Evan's penis, no matter what size it is. I love it when it's small and unexcited (so cute) and I love it when it's swollen and big (so exciting for me). Yes, I like that I have so much control over it.

      I sometimes miss sucking on it, but that's generally too submissive for me nowadays, so I don't do that often at all.

      Deirdre

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    2. Just amazing you are and an inspiration.

      Well he is missing something close to heaven but in exchange for what he has in you; worth the trade.
      Thank you
      Ron

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    3. I you like sucking on it, you can have your pie and eat it too, because you can either tie him up, or order him not to move and you can tease him with your mouth and then deny him.

      Of course, the limitation is that if you are sucking, you can't talk, so it's harder to maintain his thoughts in the right place :)

      The secret I guess is to do it from a dominant perspective. It is not a favor for Evan; it is a treat...

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  7. My maid servant spanks me. I tried once or twice to spank her, she didn't like it, and I got spanked even more as a result.

    Now it's just her who punishes me, and both she and I like it like that as well.

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    1. Dear spankedboy:

      If your maid servant doesn't want to be spanked, then you better not spank her. On the other hand, she should spank you as often as she likes.

      just my opinion,

      Deirdre

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  8. Great pictures Deidre and Evan. I can relate to how Evan feels while getting spanked. The excitement before the spanking and the pain during it. I love the last picture especially because of the impact shot of the paddle denting in his butt cheek. I commented on your previous post how the paddle looked like a real stinger and after seeing that picture I have no doubts. As I've stated in an earlier post my wife has just recently taken up the role of the female led relationship and so I am getting regular spankings as well. But it is always nice to read others stories like yours and strict Julie's. Keep up the good work.
    Bob S.

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    1. Dear Bob:

      That was just the beginning of that spanking too. He got a lot more than that: more pictures to come.

      Thanks for the kind words about my blog!

      Deirdre

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  9. what if i any guy like me or evan wasnt wearing any underwear or boxer would that be real spanking offense i normally dont wear underwear only time i do is when i masterbate iam sure if you caught me masterbate i will have get good hard spanking with the paddle
    but again thanks for more pic of yourself and showing us your spanking paddling skill
    mike
    madison ohio
    age 41

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    1. Dear Mike:

      No, not wearing underwear is not a punishable offense for me. But if you were masturbating in public, that would be punishable: the cops would put you in jail! Be careful!

      Deirdre

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  10. Seems to me your spanking technique could use some improvement Deirdre....

    No wonder you can't get much purchase on your swats when he's over your lap with your legs dangling in front and no back support.
    Once he starts squirming you are bound to lose with the weight difference.
    Get yourself a sturdy straight-back chair for support and allows you to plant your feet on the ground.

    Your aim seems way off also . That white spot you speak about should be right on his sit-spot where he can feel it when he sits down , not high up on his cheek.

    Also your paddle looks way too small and the short handle doesn't allow you much "swing room" to really flick your wrist and make the swat really sting.

    Keep up the good work!

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    1. oh my goodness, so critical!

      Well you have given me lots of advice (and criticism), but I wasn't asking for any. But to respond to your 3 points, there is method in my madness in all cases. Maybe you shouldn't take such a condescending attitude, and then someone may want to spank you sometime.

      1. I have tried straight back chairs, and I don't like them: Evan squirms too much, and it puts a lot of strain on my legs. If I am going to spank him over my knee, it has to be on the bed or the ottoman: someplace that his weight is fully supported so that I don't need to support any of him. I can get back support there if I need it. I don't need it or want it, because we don't do this too long. The longer sessions are with him kneeling on the floor, or lying on the bed.

      2. My aim is perfectly fine. That's where I was aiming.

      Perhaps you have a fantasy about how you would like to be spanked "just right"? Well, it's not about you: it's about your spanker: I do what I like.

      3. My paddle is just the right size. I have tried probably twenty or more instruments, and this is my favorite. You should choose something that suits you: this one suits me.

      You definitely could use some manners in your post responses. If I were your dominant partner, I would spank you very hard, but first after leaving you for a very long time tied on to spanking bench. 4-8 hours, depending on how you reacted. That would do the trick.

      Deirdre

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    2. I am posting to apologize for my rudeness Deirdre .
      I am always very direct by nature but didn't realize how blunt my comments were..sorry.
      My wife and I both enjoy your blog and she agrees that I had no business 'poking my nose in' as it is your blog and its great that you take the time to share it with us.
      be assured my wife did take appropriate action and removed my access to yours and other spanking blogs for a month. We don't have a spanking bench but she did blister my backside with her hairbrush and kept me in the corner for one hour.
      Keep up the good work.

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