Deirdre's guide to prostate milking

Evan doing his part in being milked, in the name of better information about prostate milking on the internet.

First, neither Evan nor I are doctors, so be careful trying out prostate milking.  Our first rule of anal play is, if it hurts, don't do it.  (That's why I never let Evan have anal sex with me.)

When I searched today (August 31, 2012) on google for "prostate milking", I found a few articles about prostatic massage, which is basically just sticking a finger in a man's anus, and massaging the prostate.

(On the wikipedia page, it claims that "It is not uncommon for a male to achieve orgasm due to prostate stimulation alone."  I only have experience with giving prostatic massage to one person -- Evan, my husband -- but we have never heard of a man having an orgasm due to prostate stimulation alone.  Evan and I have seen a lot of porn, and surely if this was common, it would possible to get it on film.  Neither of us have ever seen it.  So we are skeptical of the the claim that this is "not uncommon".)

Many webpages talk about prostatic massage as a way to increase the power of an orgasm.  And many of these are selling something to make this happen, such as the aneros tool.  But that's not what I am talking about when I talk about prostate milking.

For me and Evan, the term "prostate milking" refers to the massage of the prostate that starts a flow of semen from the penis, *with no stimulation of the penis whatsoever*.  It always sounded incredible to both of us, and for a long time we were skeptical that it was possible.  But it is in fact possible: we have been doing this for several years now.  We are surprised that there is no good manual out there that we can find, on how to do this.  So I am trying to provide one here.

Our theory of the possibility of prostate milking: the prostate only contains overflow semen.

Before I give my guide to prostate milking, let me first provide our theory of what's going on for prostate milking to be possible in a particular man on a particular day.  Based on our experience, it seems like the prostate (or near the prostate) holds an overflow area for semen.  In order for prostate milking to be successful, there has to be something in the overflow area.  If there is nothing there (because you have ejaculated relatively recently) there is nothing to milk from the prostate area.  Hence, you have to be really backed up with sperm before a milking is possible.  To give a rough idea, you have to be backed up enough such that you might possibly have a nocturnal emission (a wet dream).  If you aren't really backed up with semen, then prostate milking just won't happen (but you can still get a nice anal massage).  Now that you understand our milking principle -- the prostate only contains overflow semen -- the instructions make more sense.

Prostate milking manual:

Step 1. This is the hardest step: No orgasm of any kind for a long time.  At least a week is needed with no release.  You will probably need 2-4 weeks for you to be successful the first time.

Step 1 is the hardest step to achieve.  For us to be successful at this the first time, Evan went approximately 3 weeks without ejaculating.  That was a really long time!  I know that there are lots of people that have gone longer, but this was difficult for him.  He was used to ejaculating once or twice a day for years and years.  He would sometimes go 2 or 3 days without ejaculating, but those were unusual times: he gets super horny if he hasn't ejaculated in 3 days.  So this was difficult for him.

And when I say no release, I mean no release at all. After some experience now, I think that so-called "edging" is too dangerous to risk release.  Any time you release any sperm at all, even just a bit of pre-cum or one squirt in a partial release, then you have to re-fill that before you can milk well.  For example, on one early occasion -- maybe our third or fourth milking session ever -- I was edging Evan, and he accidentally shot one stream of come.  This was definitely not a full come: I stopped early enough to stop that.  But a lot of come came out.  When we tried milking the next day, nothing came out at all.  Our guess is that the big early shot of come is what I would have been milked out if he hadn't let that go the previous day.  So my advice is no edging.  Now, when I want to milk Evan, I try to keep sexual contact with him to a minimum for days in advance.  That is, I don't touch his penis for long at all.  It's fine to touch it until it's hard, but then I leave it alone.  (Of course, this does not stop me from getting oral pleasure from Evan: it's just him who needs to be denied for milking to work.)

Evan from day 2 until day 21, when it's time to milk.  That's an exaggeration, but what a nice picture: I have my hands full.

Step 2. Find a firm dildo to massage your prostate with.  Perhaps you can use your finger(s) instead.  We weren't successful with fingers however, possibly because my fingers cannot reach deep enough to massage the right spot.  We use the red "more" feeldoe dildo from:

http://www.feeldoe.com/

I like this dildo for milking because it's smooth, and firmer than most dildos.  (I realize that these dildos are expensive, but they are good.  We are not paid in any way by this company, and we recommend them.  I see that they now have a "stout" version: I would have got that one if it had been available when we bought ours.  Evan likes a thick one in his behind.)

The feeldoe dildos

Step 3: Prepare yourself for anal play.

For us, this means that Evan gives himself an enema, or I give him an enema.  This takes a while: he takes 2 quarts of plain warm water, or sometimes water with a bit of white vinegar, or sometimes water with a bit of mild hand soap.  I fill him up, while he is kneeling the bathtub, and then have him hold it for a few minutes.  I plug his bottom with an anal plug to hold the water in during this period.  I time the hold so that it's 5-10 minutes (depending on how he feels: I don't want to do him any damage), and then he releases the water after I leave.  We wait for 1 hour or more for the water to clean him out.  Then he is nice and clean, and ready for his milking.

Step 4. Find a comfortable position for being pegged (butt-fucked).  We have mostly used positions where Evan is kneeling on the bed, or where he stands up and bends over.  And occasionally I have milked him on our spanking bench (which is a great place for milking).  I have seen that others get pegged while on their backs.  I imagine that this would work too, but we haven't done this.  We like a position from which the semen can drip down and catch in a container, so this means that Evan has to be bent over.

Step 5. Using lots of lubricant, insert the dildo into the anus.  Take your time to get it in comfortably.

Step 6. Aim the dildo at the prostate.  The prostate is a little round soft thing in his rectum, underneath the base of the penis.  This picture is from the wikipedia page on prostatic massage:

Step 6: Now just simply massage the prostate with the head of the dildo, applying some pressure.  Do this firmly and smoothly, back and forth over the prostate.  (But don't bang into it hard: the prostate is a sensitive part of the body.  According to the wikipedia page, you shouldn't do this "vigorously" but I don't know how to define "vigorous".  Apply common sense here: if it hurts, don't do it.)

When I do this using the feeldoe, the feeldoe is aimed down, not up in its normal fucking position.  I find it easiest to use the head of the dildo penis aimed in this way to massage the prostate most efficiently.

Simply repeat step 6 until you get some seminal fluid dripping out of the head of the penis.  For us, it takes a while for the seminal fluid to flow, approximately a minute or so of massaging.  The massage should feel really strange (according to Evan): it should feel like you need to go to the bathroom in some weird way, maybe like needing to pee or maybe like needing to defecate.  Unless it hurts, then just relax and try to enjoy these feelings.  As long as you have cleaned yourself well (using the enema), you shouldn't worry about defecating.  Evan also tells me that he feels very submissive to me at this point, when I am massaging his prostate: apparently it's when he feels most submissive to me.  He gets very quiet and subdued: not alpha male at all.  As you might imagine, I like this very much.

Listen to your partner during this process: massage in a place that feels the strangest to him.  Evan tells me when I hit a spot that feels really strange, and then I massage over and over on that spot.  After a little while, he often can feel when the semen is going to start to flow, and he tells me.  The flow starts as a rapid series of drops -- often a little spurt of a few drops at once -- and then a steady flow of one drop every few seconds, drip, drip, drip.  I usually milk Evan for about 5-8 minutes.  At this point, the drips have basically stopped.  Then I often turn the dildo so that it has the normal side up, and I peg Evan deeply for a couple more minutes, just because it's fun for both of us to do this. I like it when he moans his adoration of me during all of this process.  Sometimes he will say "thank you, maam" every time I push deeply on his prostate or penetrate him.  It's good to be appreciated.

Some information on the internet that I have found claims that for milking to work successfully, one needs to be in the right state of mind.  The author of these articles seems to think that the process is part mental on the part of the milkee.  We don't think that this is correct: we think that milking is a purely physiological process: if your prostate is filled with overflow semen, and if you massage it right, then you will necessarily be milked.  This is certainly true for Evan: if Evan is in a ready state for milking (backed up for a week or more), then if I then follow the steps above, he will be milked of his excess semen, no matter what his mental state (that is, whether he wants this to happen or not).

Step 7: Clean up.  We put a little dish or a cup below Evan's penis during the milking process, to catch all the semen (the milk!).  We also sometimes film this process.  When watching the film, Evan has counted how many drops he typically produces.  Depending on how recently he has ejaculated before, he will produce somewhere between 30 and 60 drops of semen.  This can end up being equivalent to a pretty substantial come load.  Once the milking process is completed, I make sure that Evan drinks this down.  This is the one time when Evan doesn't mind drinking his own semen: getting milked has basically no effect on his sexual excitement level.  After milking, he is still as horny as when we started.

This is at the end of the milking session.  Although it's not easy to see, the bowl has lots of semen in it.

This is Evan drinking his milk.  (Good boy!)

Often after milking, we will have sex one or more times.  Evan ejaculates about a usual amount (substantially) even right after milking.  This is one of the reasons that we think that the milking process only taps into an overflow pool of semen: there is another pool of semen in deep somewhere else, which is never tapped by the milking process.

Note that there is no reason for the man to be erect during this process.  I rarely touch Evan's penis during this procedure, and he doesn't either.  Sometimes he gets hard, because if he hasn't come in 1-3 weeks, he is excited about anything remotely sexual (and this definitely is sexual).  But I don't touch his penis during the process.  It just dangles there, dripping.  It's a beautiful thing to watch!  I hope that through the information I provide here, more people can have experience with it.

Here is a video of milking that I found on xhamster.  This is very like Evan's milking sessions:

http://xhamster.com/movies/1391702/prostate_milking_part_1_of_2.html

A common view among female dominant websites is that it is possible to deny a submissive male from ejaculating arbitrarily long, and only allow him release through milking sessions.  Evan and I both like this idea in principle, but it's impractical for us, because while milking does get rid of the overflow, it doesn't get rid of Evan's horniness.  If I lived a different life, where Evan could just serve me all day, I probably wouldn't let him come for long periods (months or more), but we don't live like that.  In particular, Evan needs to think a lot for his day job.  And to do that, he can't be backed up on sperm all the time.  He just can't get anything done if he is horny all the time: all he does is think about sexual release.  It is when he is like that that he will do anything I say.  And while I like that very much (I could totally dominate him if he were like that all the time), it's impractical: he's kind of an idiot when he hasn't come for 2 weeks!  That's attractive to me, but not so much to his employers.

That's it for now.  Let me know what you think of this "manual" in the comment section.  I will probably update this according to your comments, so let me know if I have made any errors, or if I have left out some important pieces of information.

Finally, to repeat what I said at the top, neither Evan nor I are doctors, so be careful out there!  If it hurts, don't do it.