Friday, September 21, 2012

advanced corner time for Evan

So ever since I started taking over Evan's life a couple of weeks ago, by way of hair-yanking and ear-marching, one day at a time, everything has been extremely smooth between us.  I think I understand my role, and I know he understands his.  Making it work has been easy so far, because even though he acts up every now and then (as he always has), the ear-pull moves him back to where he belongs very rapidly.

Evan went away for work on Tuesday this past week, and came back Wednesday.  He had behaved just fine before and during his trip, and he was very sweet when he returned.  So I had no complaints at all: he was being great.  But one of the perks of my new strict wife status is that I can torment him just for fun, and he can't do anything about it.  (In fact, I know he loves it.)  So that's what I set out to do that evening.

When it was close to bed time, I told him I was going to have a shower.  While I was showering, I told him I wanted him with his pants down, bare-bottom, in the corner.  He asked which corner and why, and I replied it didn't matter why, get there now, whereupon I grabbed his ear and moved him to the corner where I wanted him, and while still holding his ear, had him pull his pants down.  I then left him there to go find a penny.  I had heard of others doing this, and now this was something I was going to do more often: I told Evan to hold the penny against the wall, with his hands behind his back.  I wish I had taken some photos or a video of what happened next, but that's Evan's territory (setting up the video) and this was all spontaneous, so no filming that day.

I then left Evan for a while, periodically checking on him to make sure that he was doing as I asked.  He was. I wasn't quite ready for my shower yet.  I thought I would leave him for a while, then a while longer, and then torment him a bit.  A few minutes passed, and I read some email and responded to it.  I went back to make sure he was still standing with his hands behind his back, bare-bottomed, and holding the coin against the wall.  He was doing so, seemingly very intently.  I went back to doing more email and then returned again.  All was well: he was doing as he was asked.  So now he was going to get a reward.  I snuck up behind him, reached between his legs from behind with my left hand, and started caressing his balls from behind.  He moved suddenly at my touch but then relaxed: this was something that he really liked.  I reached around with my right hand, and started stroking his semi-erect penis.  I had not allowed him to come for 2 weeks, so he was super horny at this point.  I had milked him a few days ago (which is always fun) but I knew he would be close to fully loaded once again by now.  I stroked his penis very lightly with my right hand, while lightly touching his balls through his legs from behind.  I asked him whether he liked how this felt.  "Yes" he replied.  (No kidding!)  I continued to stroke him gently.

At this point I was still figuring out what to do with him.  I didn't have a plan; I was just playing this by ear.  I stroked him faster and faster.  I knew this was driving him wild.  I just continued this very lightly for quite a while.  I was curious to see how he would react.  Then I started jerking him pretty hard with my right hand, with the idea of really tormenting him.  I pulled him pretty hard, and told him that he better not drop that penny, or I would take him to the bed and give him a hard spanking.  Then I set about trying to make this event happen.  I jerked him harder, with more erratic pulling, moving from side to side a bit, so he would have to twist to get the best effect of my hand on his penis.  He twisted and turned his body, but managed to hold the coin with his nose tight against the wall.  I turned from side to side a bit more, and changed my pace faster and slower.  He was breathing very heavily and shifting around a lot, and bending his knees a lot in order to get the full effect.  His legs started shaking as time went on -- five, then ten minutes -- and eventually, he broke, and the coin fell to the floor.

I stopped immediately, and grabbed his ear, and told him I was disappointed that he had dropped the penny, against my wishes.  Now it was time to be spanked for that mistake.  I ear-marched him to the bed and had him lay on the bed. I got my trusty purse paddle "pursey", and started spanking hard.  I gave him about 20 hard spanks, and then he struggled away and whined that it was too much.  "Of course it wasn't too much: this is what your bottom is for," I told him.  I had him roll back in position and started up again.  About 20 more hard ones, alternating back and forth.  Again, lots more complaining, but less rolling away.  I paused again, and finished with a flourish of about 20 more hard ones, with him telling me over and over that "it hurts, oh, it hurts so much!"  This doesn't deter me at all: that's music to my ears.  I finished this spanking off, then pulled him by his ear back to his corner.  I gave him his penny back and told him to hold it against the wall again, and don't drop it this time.

I commented that he was still semi-hard: maybe I didn't spank long enough.  He assured me that I had done a good job.  I was dubious: I usually don't even count a spanking until the erection is completely gone: that's when the spanking starts for real.  Until then, it's just fun for him.  But I was on a different mission today: power corner time.  I asked Evan if he would like me to stroke his penis again.  He replied yes, most definitely.  He asked if I was going to let him come like this.  I replied that he could come like this if he could do so without dropping the penny.  I told him that I would be impressed if he could do this, because I was going to jerk him off in such a way that it would be hard for him to hold up the penny with his nose, and his hands behind his back.  But if he failed, I would give him a proper spanking with pursey, and then a strapping with our lovely 3-tailed strap (which I have started to call "3-strappy": 3-strappy wants more access to my Evan's bottom.  As a member of our family, I think that this is good for everyone.  So I was hoping to give Evan a good strapping today also.)

I told Evan some of this, but at the same time, I told him that if he didn't drop the penny, he could shoot his ejaculate against the wall, and I would love to see that too.  He groaned a bit, most saliently whenever I told him what I wanted from him: he seems to react strongest to my words rather than my jerking him off.  I continued playing with his penis and caressing his balls lightly.  He responded strongly, and I could feel that he was getting closer and closer.  He seemed intent on keeping his nose to the wall, however, and I could feel his concentration on ejaculation fall off every time that he jerked a little, and almost lost the penny.  Whenever that happened I would coax him along some more, telling him that it didn't matter to me what happened: I would love to see him ejaculate all over the wall, but I would love just as much (maybe more) to give him a longer spanking, including a nice strapping from 3-strappy.  He moaned when I talked to him but didn't talk back at all (good boy!).  I enjoyed his confused concentrated silence.

After a couple more close calls, I could feel he was really close now.  He tightened his buttocks and asked me if he could please come now.  I said, of course, that was the point.  I jerked a few more times, and sure enough he started to shoot his white sticky ejaculate all over our dark red-painted wall.  What a load!  It was great to see.  I let go as soon as he started to come, and he was a good boy in that he didn't jerk himself off.  He just spurted out with neither me nor him touching his erect penis.  A partially ruined orgasm: great from my perspective.  But I had jerked long enough to get most of it out (I think).  Anyway there was a lot.  And amazingly, he never dropped the penny.  I was very impressed: I didn't expect him to be able to do this.  But a deal is a deal.  Next time I will make it harder for him: I want 3-strappy to get some more action.

I pondered what to do about the mess on the wall, dripping to the floor.  Of course I considered the idea that he should lick it up just like that.  But the OCD in me didn't think that this was healthy: I don't want him to get sick from germs or strong chemical cleaners.  So I just had him clean it with a sponge, some cleaner and paper towels.  Maybe next time I will be more organized and have him come onto a plate while kneeling, or something.  Sex play has to be hygienic for me.

Ok, that's the latest entry in my sexual domination of my husband Evan.

All you submissive men out there: Let's hear what you think.  As before, I am demanding a comment from all of you.  Follow my instructions and I will give Evan an extra beating this coming week, for no good reason.  Ignore my instructions and I will ignore Evan for a day (the worst punishment for you submissive boys).

Deirdre

Evan getting spanked: twisting away, so we can start to see his no-longer-erect penis

A good spank for perpetually naughty Evan.







40 comments:

  1. I'm obeying you miss.

    This absolutely destroyed me:
    "This doesn't deter me at all: that's music to my ears."

    Your demeanor both thrills and terrifies me to my core, I know if you ever spanked me you would go far beyond my dirty little fantasy and I would be sorry, honestly sorry, that I had ever gone willingly over your knee...

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    1. Thank you for obeying me.

      I hope you get a partner who will do this to you one day (and many days after that to follow).

      Deirdre

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    2. Your reply to me is the epitome of why I am so attracted (ok, addicted) to your blog.

      Your writing reveals this amazing dichotomy of an iron-willed bitch who metes out the strictest punishments and dominance yet is motivated by love, not selfishness or sadism.

      Your hope for me, a perfect stranger, is that I would find real happiness (in the arms of a woman who would beat my ass, but still...).

      Makes me want to hug you, then kiss your feet, then cook you dinner and do the dishes...

      /sigh

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    3. Dear Deidre;
      Iam compelled by my submissive nature to obey your command to repley to this most wonder episode Of your life. You were obviously spontaneous inthe
      Manner iwhch you Punished and tormented Evan. I have experienced similar circumstance but without the love . After the mistress Punished me I was forced to ejaculateconto her shoes , the soles and lick them clean.Of course I would have licked the walls and floor clean.At your cOmmand.

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    4. Dear anon 1:

      Thank you very much for the kind words.

      (I don't really like the word "bitch" but I understand by the way that you wrote that you meant this in a very positive way. Evan has tried to teach me that it's ok to be a "bitch" in this sense, but it has bad connotations for me that I have a hard time getting over. So I prefer "iron-willed woman" to "iron-willed bitch", but I do get your point.)

      Anyway, yes, you are right: my discipline of Evan is firm and very hard for him to bear, but definitely for his own good. He needs these spankings, and he loves having a strict wife. I know he hates it at the time of a spanking, but it's in his interest that I push him far. It doesn't hurt that I happen to enjoy doing it too: I think that that only helps the situation.

      Thanks for the offer of feet-kissing, and especially the offer of making me dinner. I like it when a man cooks for me. Fortunately, I have such a man: Evan is an excellent cook, and he cleans up too. I am lucky! Now go make some other woman happy with all your love and talents, mr. anon!

      Deirdre

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    5. Dear Mr anon 2:

      I can't tell if you were happy about licking your ejaculate off of your mistress's shoes. Were you? If not, maybe you should find someone that will torment you in a more loving way?

      I recommend not starting with the shoe-ejaculation as a conversation starter. Most girls I know nowadays wouldn't be bothered by that (or by a need to be spanked), so I would start with the assumption that most girls may be ok with your need to be dominated. So I would get to know them on some other levels first. As you fall in love, then you need to reveal all your inner feelings, but I wouldn't start too quickly with this information.

      Good luck to you: I hope you can find someone to make you happy!

      Deirdre

      ps. It's not healthy to lick the walls or floors. So I would be wary of someone who has you do this. I don't think that would have your best interests at heart. (The shoes may be ok, however: your mistress may keep her shoes clean, so that you can lick them off.)

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  2. Great blog. Had to read through it twice to make sure I had everything clear in my mind. I like the tension you introduce. Gives new meaning to the phrase "...the penny dropped."

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    1. Thank you, Michael M.

      I am glad that you like my writing. And yes your observation about "the penny dropped" is a good one.

      D

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  3. Dear Dierdre,

    Not commenting here because I've been ordered (as anyone reading my own blog would know that I answer to one woman only!), but I do have a suggestion which might spur along even more "audience parcipation"...

    The next time you spank Evan, after you think he's reached his limit, THEN administer a given number of swats for each comment made here. Naturally, the more insicive contributions will warrant some additional whacks! "ok Evan, and now you're gonna get another 5, courtesy of Jake" LOL

    I can just picture the poor guy monitering your blog, praying for fewer responses, but to no avail! Of course, when the time comes you'll be able to feign an air of resigned sympathy... "sorry darling, I DO want to show mercy, but I have an obligation to my readership!"

    Best,

    Jake

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    1. Dear Jake:

      Yes, I have thought about audience participation somehow in my blog, but I am not sure how to make it fun and genuine for all parties involved. I am thinking about it: I think I may post about this sometime, seeking some suggestions. The problem as I see it with most interactions like this is that the readers may not feel truly involved, and similarly for us. I am not sure how to make it more genuinely interactive (if not in real time).

      Deirdre

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  4. Dear Jake,

    Obedient_hubby here. I like idea of spanking outcomes being determined by rules which are “lose-lose” and I, like you I am guessing, I particularly like it when the wife can feign regret that she has no choice but to administer the mandated punishment. That added touch is very exciting to both parties to the game, and in some cases (not here, apparently) it might be a device to ease the conscience of the wife who might otherwise feel some guilt or shame about enjoying what she is administering. Ms. Deirdre is quite forthright about her enjoyment of what she does, and more power to her. Having said that, in other words having admitted my own desire to enjoy reading about such wickedness, I am not criticizing you, Jake. However, I must mention that Evan might, just MIGHT, not appreciate the dynamic that, as the readers’ fantasies get richer and richer, his behind gets redder and purple-er. Of course if Deirdre decides to implement your creative suggestion, my comment, and the others, will add to the impact. Sorry, Evan. Not. Evan and Deirdre, you are the best!

    O.H.

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    1. Dear OH:

      As I say above, I am interested in somehow making the blog more interactive sometime, on a temporary basis (if not in real time), but I am currently thinking about how to do this. I will post sometime soon regarding this idea.

      Yes, I imagine that most readers would want me to push Evan farther and farther. That doesn't bother me: I am happy to please the masses to some degree. I also think it excites Evan, but it won't when he's getting what he's excited about. In any case, I will try later on this topic.

      Deirdre

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  5. Deirdre, The use of corner time is used in my home. I have naughty coin. It's a very large copper coin. My wife does not stop with just one punishment. She has new idea's all the time. I can tell you this cum in the corner on the wall and floor. That will never happen here. She checks things with a black light for old cum marks. She call it pecker tracking. Only one pecker in are home. When she finds them it's not fun for me at all. She does not count spanks. Tears are use to find my limits.

    suffie

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    1. Dear Suffie:

      I am sorry that you will never experience "cum in the corner".

      I find it odd that your wife would need to check the walls with a black light for old cum marks. I have never heard of people masturbating on the walls: is this a cultural practice that I am not aware of? What's wrong with a tissue?

      And yes, tears are in principle a good way to find limits. I normally don't count spanks either: I am a timer-girl. With a timer, I usually go well beyond Evan's stated limit, but his limits are weak when he's over my lap or on the bench. Still getting him to cry is difficult. Getting him to yell (even very loudly) is very easy. But genuine crying is harder.

      Deirdre

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  6. Dear Ms Dierdre,

    Well I don't know if I'm obeying your instruction out of altruism for Evan, or selfishness or my part, but either way I wouldn't want him (or his backside) ignored, and I would like to hear about it!

    Anyway, I like the introduction of corner-time, and the penny-against-the-wall concept is lovely. For me, what I like best about this is the symbolism. It is a demonstration of your dominance and his obedience and I would love to see more of it. Kneeling in your presence is another such symbolic demonstration, and the use of a respectful form of address such as "Madam" or "Ma'am" also re-enforces your authority.

    Some years ago I bought my Wife a little silver hand-bell. She keeps it by the bed. Even now it's tinkling ring makes my stomach somersault even though it's likely just to mean that She is demanding another cup of tea... Symbolism!

    Respectfully

    Steve T

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    1. Dear Steve:

      Evan calls me "maam" at times. I like this a lot.

      A bell: what a good idea. I don't need it, but I agree that it's a lovely symbol, and I like that I can ring it in the presence of others at our home, and he would obey me. Not too obviously kinky, but obvious submission to me for everyone to see, which I like.

      Thank you for the suggestion,

      Deirdre

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  7. Ms. Deirdre,

    I enjoyed your entry; I enjoy all of them, actually. The most interesting point today was that Evan responds more to your words than to your, well, ministrations, at least in this instance. I think that makes sense. At least, I could identify with him in that regard. A woman's words are just wonderfully powerful.

    I'm amazed that Evan did not drop the penny at the end. I'm glad you did not make him lick the wall or floor; cleanliness isn't always OCD. And I fell so sorry for 3-strappy, but I'm sure she'll get her (his?) chance.

    Michael_Michael

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    1. Dear MM:

      Thank you for your continued responses to all my blog posts, over all these years.

      Yes, Evan gets super excited by the way that I talk, more than the way I look or touch him. It's very nice: as we all should know by now, sex is mostly in the mind.

      Yes, 3-strappy will get his chance. (3-strappy is a boy.)

      Deirdre

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  8. Very descriptive, thanks for the posting. Well done to Evan for keeping the penny against the wall whilst coming! I can imagine the focused concentration this must have taken!

    Not sure how you can incorporate 3-strappy into the proceedings, perhaps as a punishment/reward for ejaculation next time, or not adhering to a time limit? I am sure you will think of something creative.
    Best wishes
    Anon

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    1. Dear Anon:

      yes, I was surprised that Evan was able to keep the penny up while coming. I didn't expect that at all.

      Don't worry: 3-strappy will find his way back to Evan's bottom. That's where he belongs. He needs to do his job to have a satisfactory life.

      Deirdre

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  9. Ma'am,

    Simple answer is I wish that were me! I love to hate corner time and well the penny, amazing. Further a spanking for not "doing as I was told" is wonderful and well, we all know what an effective and caring spanker you are....are for letting him cum, well that to me is the love you have for him taking over.
    Just incredible and thank you for sharing the otk spanking pics, my favorite.
    Hope this earns Evan a nice trip over your beautiful lap!
    Always
    Ron

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    1. Hi Ron:

      I will post more otk pictures for you soon. I like otk the best too, but Evan is such a squirmer.

      Deirdre

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    2. But I am sure he squirms in pleasure ma'am!

      Thank you
      Always
      Ron

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  10. Dierdre- Oh man! I'm tenting my panties thinking about "corner time" and what You made Evan do! I think cumming will be soon, ha!
    I got spanked today, but nothing like that!

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    1. Dear SS:

      Tenting your panties? What a silly submissive man you are!

      I hope your spanking was much longer and harder, and that you were suitably contrite at the end.

      Deirdre

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  11. I just want to say how great it is to see another domestic disciplinarian who truly understands the effectiveness of ear pulling. When it comes time to punish my boyfriend, his ear is almost never free from my grip. I love the way it can turn a bigger, stronger guy into a begging, grimacing little boy immediately. For special occasions, I keep him in the corner with clothespins on his ears. That really keeps him mind focused on being a better boy in the future.

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    1. Dear Anon lady:

      Clothespins on the ears! What a lovely idea. I haven't done anything with clothespins yet. I gather that that's a standard in the female dominant profession. Maybe sometime soon: I don't know. I like the strict wife / family feel to our relationship. Not that clothespins wouldn't fit there somewhere: I am just not sure yet.

      Anyway, thank you very much for the comment and the implicit suggestion. It's definitely worth considering.

      Deirdre

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  12. Dear Ms. Deirdre,

    Your observation that "he seems to react strongest to my words rather than my jerking him off" confirms the belief that the mind is the true erogenous zone -- words and the images they evoke in the mind are totally powerful.

    Yours truly,

    O.H.

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    1. Dear OH:

      Yes indeed, the mind is the most powerful erogenous zone, at least for Evan and me.

      Deirdre

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  13. Hi Deidre
    I doubt many men have ever experienced corner time like you gave it to Evan. My wife has used a version of your coin technique making me hold up a quarter with my nose while sticking my bottom out as far as I can and that is very effective in inducing obedience and acceptance of what is happening. If she is especially angry or I have been especially naughty she will make me stand on my toes while holding the coin and repeat over and over that I am in the corner because I was a naughty boy.
    Apparently unlike some wives mine only uses corner time as part of a pre –spanking ritual. It is a kind of transition for us that gets me under control quickly. When a spanking is finally over however she feels it’s time to restore the relationship and move on, so she never orders corner time after I have been spanked. She has told me she has no desire to punish me further after she lets me up. (The only exception is if I receive more than one spanking in a single session and then she uses corner time to separate the spankings and scolding.
    Corner time is really a gift to me because it puts me in a submissive and obedient state ready to accept whatever punishment my wife decides and prevents me from being defiant or otherwise uncooperative. If I spend even 10 minutes in the corner with my pants down and my bottom thrust out I am completely ready to accept her authority and that is good for both of us.
    Corner time is essentially a very Juvenal punishment and when it is imposed it’s impossible not to feel juvenile and silly and that’s why I think it works so well
    Alan

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    1. Dear Alan:

      Thank you for the description of your wife's practices. You sound well looked after.

      I have mostly used corner time for post-spanking, but I can see how it is useful at all times. I may be making more use of corner time in the coming weeks. For some reason, it now appeals to me more than it used to.

      Deirdre

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  14. Dear Ms. Deirdre,

    Obedient Hubby here. You wrote, "I like the strict wife / family feel to our relationship." That is precisely what makes your blog so appealing to me. You and Evan are such an attractive couple, and the use of a bunch of equipment or fetish clothing, etc. is not part of your formula. To see you in your normal clothing, in the home setting, spanking the hell out of your husband -- that is the essence of it, without a bunch of superfluous stuff. I realize some people, wives as well as husbands, go for all kinds of kinky variations and that is fine for them. But what you do to that poor man's bottom, and to his mind, is the essence of the blog. And it is wonderful and complete. Wicked variations are welcome, but the basic parameters are perfect, at least in my view. And, it is what my wife likes also, although she will sometimes add panties and lipstick which does nothing for me except makes me feel stupid, which turns her on. No rules for what the wife chooses to do or not do, just woman-in-charge, and a paddle to make sure the husband remembers who is the boss. And perhaps a cane for addressing thoughtless behavior and to settle hurt feelings and arguments. It's humiliating, and it hurts when I get it, and I adore her. Keep up the good reporting, please.

    O.H.

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    1. Dear OH:

      Thank you very much for the compliment on the blog.

      Evan has never had any interest in dressing as a woman, or wearing women's panties. I also haven't really had such an interest. However, unfortunately for Evan, I agree with your wife that it would be very funny to see Evan wearing some lipstick. I will try that very soon. I may go for the underwear sometime also. I will see if the lipstick is funny first: I will let the blog know how it goes.

      Thank you for the compliment and the idea.

      Deirdre

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  15. It sounds as if you really enjoy yourselves! I can tell you do; I hope that Evan does also!

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  16. Dear Deirdre,

    wonderful to see Evan getting more corner time. Its always been one of K's "special subjects".

    I get it before a spanking, as a way of building the sense of anticipation.... how the mind can play tricks on you in a state of anxiety, 10 minutes feels like hours.

    I also almost invariably get it after a spanking. Being put in the corner with a spanked bottom on display is embarrassing but its also a kind of sanctuary, a place to calm down and recover in relative privacy.

    And of course corner time works fine on its own - time out to head off a bad mood or allow me to appreciate I'm on a last warning and think quietly about the consequences.

    K has also developed several power enhancements over the years - the coin trick being one of them. Another is to attach a thin paper bad around my thumbs when I do corner time with my hands on my head. Moving out of position breaks the band - with the same consequences as dropping the coin. Another is to use the chair she has been sitting on to spank me, this can be put in the corner or elsewhere in the room and I do my corner time kneeling on it, hands on head, pants down. Breakfast spankings (administered at the breakfast table usually for something done the evening before) often end with K eating breakfast with me kneeling on the next chair, hands on head, red bottom displayed for her amusement while she eats and reads the paper.

    In DD we find its the simple things that work the best, and nothing illustrates this better than corner time!

    R

    The final enhancement to share is the "naughty stool" a stool with a piece of prickly door mat on it - usually used for post spanking corner time but works vey well onits own- put it in the corner and put the recipient on it with their pants down....

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    1. Dear R:

      Thanks for all the advice about tricks to play on Evan. I will keep these in mind.

      I especially like the prickly doormat idea: I will have to put that into play at some point.

      Thanks for reading, and for commenting.

      Deirdre

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  17. OMG... you are so evil that you are good ;)

    My wife just recently started to spank me, and I hope she enjoys it so I can get more of it.

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    1. Dear vs-boy:

      thank you for the compliment.

      Good luck to you in your spanking attempts with your wife. The most important thing to do is to have good communication: you should talk about what excites you and why (if possible). Leave her out of this discussion: talk about your needs and desires from your point of view, and not what she should do. I hope that she can do the same, and that you won't judge one another negatively, and you can each accept each other's similarities and differences.

      Keep us posted on how you do!

      Deirdre

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  18. The two of you have such lovely energy. Thanks for taking the time and effort to share. I'd love to hear what you're doing now.

    Context is everything, of course, but love your phrase "Of course it wasn't too much: this is what your bottom is for" and plan to make good use of it when the opportunity arises.

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