the function of spanking

Hi all:

Happy mothers day to all of you. I just talked to my mom, and Evan already talked to his mom too. Someday I hope that we will have children of our own. (But when we do, I will probably stop blogging: I understand that lives change with children.)

I get a lot of questions about how often I spank Evan, and why. As I have mentioned before, we don't have a regular schedule: I do it when the time is right, which is mostly when I feel like it.

For us, the function of the spanking is not to correct something in Evan. I spank Evan (1) because I like to do it; and (2) because he needs it (although he doesn't tell me so anymore). There is some need in him to be taken over my knee or over the bench, and to be spanked long and hard, past his comfort zone. I can tell that he feels better after a spanking. As for me, I enjoy pushing him hard: it makes me feel close to him, to give him something that no one else can give him. The spankings bring us closer emotionally.

I have also been asked how I decide to spank over the knee vs. on the bench. That question is easier to answer: it is much more convenient to spank over the knee, so we mostly do that. The bench involves a serious time and emotional investment for both of us, because, as you have seen, I spank pretty hard over the bench. Consequently, I will most often spank Evan over my knee.

People have also asked if I take Evan with a strap-on on the bench. Mostly not. I do occasionally take Evan with a strap-on, but I do that to him in our bed, in the evening. There is no need to tie him down for receiving anal sex: he can remain in position without much difficulty. It's always a bit difficult for him to relax to receive the dildo, but once he does relax, he takes it pretty well. He says that it's overwhelming to be taken in the bottom, but not painful (except a little bit initially).

I have also been asked if I will let Evan spank me for the camera. The answer to this question is definitely not. As I mentioned in our early bio, I let Evan spank me a few times in the early part of our relationship, and I hated it. The spanking hurt a lot (even though Evan used only his hand), and I didn't like the loss of control at all. Consequently, you won't ever see me getting spanked. I am much happier giving than receiving.

Finally, I have been asked if I might pose nude for you all. Unfortunately, no. Although I am proud of my body, posing naked for you feels too submissive to me, in this forum. I like to be the one in control, so I will only show you some limited views of my body. However, I will provide you with a view of my rear end. Evan adores my bottom, and he would like to have been able to keep spanking me. Now he worships my bottom, but never does it any harm.

Until later,

Deirdre.