Today, I wanted to share my point of view on female superiority / female supremacy. When one visits a website dedicated to information on female dominance in a relationship, one often seems to encounter views espousing female superiority / female supremacy more generally. For example, one well-known source of information on female dominance is the Elise Sutton website (http://www.elisesutton.com/), which argues for female supremacy.
There are at least two possible views on female superiority / supremacy: (1) that all women are superior to all men; or (2) that women on average are superior to men. (The key dimensions which people who discuss these ideas typically have in mind are intellectual superiority and superiority with respect to leadership qualities.) Let us first consider the first view, whereby all women are superior to all men in the dimensions of intellect and leadership. The Elise Sutton website seems to espouse this view. I find this claim to be highly implausible. There are clearly lots of examples of men who are incompetent and/or poor leaders, but this observation does not imply that all men are inferior to all women. In fact, it's pretty easy to falsify such a hypothesis: many men are clearly superior to many women in intellect and leadership qualities. E.g., our president or Mahatma Gandhi are clearly superior to most women (and men, for that matter) on these dimensions.
The more interesting claim is that women are superior to men on average, in intellectual and leadership qualities. Although this is an interesting hypothesis, there is no quantitative evidence in support of it that I am aware of. Neither is there any strong evidence in favor of the opposite view: that men are superior to women in intellectual and leadership qualities. The clear null hypothesis here is that men and women are equal in these dimensions. I will therefore assume the null hypothesis (as any scientist should) until I encounter evidence to the contrary.
How does this affect relationships? The null hypothesis is that both men and women differ a lot in their desires to lead and/or be led in a relationship. So while I very much like to dominate my husband Evan, this doesn't mean that all women should like to do the same thing with their mates. Indeed, many women may like to be dominated by their mates. If so, they should seek a man (or woman) who likes a more dominant role in the relationship. Yet others (perhaps the majority) might like a balanced relationship in terms of power.
Regarding the Elise Sutton website, there was some discussion on she-makes-the-rules.com a while ago about whether Elise Sutton was a real woman, or perhaps was a man masquerading as a woman. (Search for Elise Sutton in the discussion forum.) None of the women at she-makes-the-rules.com (some of whom are active in female dominant circles) had ever met Elise Sutton, so they suspected that "she" was really a man. I would guess that they are right: until someone I know can verify "her" in real life, I will assume that Elise Sutton is just an over-active male fantasy.
Finally, I would like to add that I am not superior to my husband Evan: I am just dominant over him. We both happen to like it that way.
I usually like to include a photo or two, for the more visually-inclined of my readers. Here's another shot of me in my pink sweater and skirt, with my paddle.
And here's a shot of Evan receiving an over the knee spanking, for general naughtiness.
My best wishes to all,