Sunday, May 23, 2010

Pegging my husband

Hi everyone:

Many men seem to be fascinated with receiving anal sex using a strap-on dildo. Evan brought this idea up with me early on in our relationship many years ago, and I was happy to oblige him. I very much enjoy putting on a dildo and "pegging" Evan, as the practice is more commonly known.

(see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pegging_(sexual_practice) )

When I peg Evan, it is not as a punishment for anything: it's just a sexual act between us, that emphasizes my dominance and his submission. I don't think it's so different from a man having anal sex with a woman: receiving anal sex is a pleasurable submissive experience for a woman, and a pleasurable dominant experience for a man. (Evan has never performed anal sex on me: I am not against receiving anal sex in principle, but (1) Evan's penis is much too thick for my anus (I am never having that in my bottom); and (2) I prefer the dominant role in our relationship.)

When Evan first brought up the idea of getting pegged, he was a bit tentative and shy about it. But over the years, he learned not to hold in his interests and desires, and to share them with me openly. I really liked the idea of pegging Evan, because I like to sexually dominate him, and have him in positions that make him feel submissive and vulnerable.

When I want to peg Evan - probably once every month or two - I will have him give himself an enema to clean himself out, so that there is no mess during the pegging. Enemas are generally thought to be healthy for the colon. The enema I have him perform consists simply of warm water with a few drops of vinegar. He takes a large-ish enema bag full of water (perhaps 2/3 or more of a normal enema bag from the pharmacy) while kneeling in the tub, and holds it in for 5-10 minutes, depending on my whim. I will often massage his back and talk to him while the water is going in. He is very quiet and submissive at this time, as he is concentrating hard on holding the water. When all the water is in, I will leave him for his timed waiting period. When he has held the water long enough, he will release it, which can take him a while. 30-60 minutes later he is ready to be pegged.

When we are ready to start, I have him kneel on our bed, with his bottom in the air. The strap-on dildo that I use most is not a strap-on at all: it is a "feel-doe", which inserts into my pussy (see the picture below).
This is an expensive toy from http://www.feeldoe.com/, but I think it is worth it for us. I like how it feels in me, as well as in him. According to the feeldoe people, the dildo that we have (the red one above) is 6 3/4" long and 1 5/8" thick. It is therefore very similar to Evan's penis in length and thickness, although Evan is a bit thicker. I tell him that he should be willing to take a penis of the same size as he gives out, which seems fair to me.

I insert the red bulb in my pussy, and then put some lube on Evan's anus, for him to receive the red penis. It takes a couple of minutes to get his anus to relax enough to receive this thick penis. He experiences the classic responses to anal sex: tightness from initial penetration. Eventually, I will get the head in, and slowly I will start to fuck him in his bottom. He says that the experience is overwhelming. He gets no orgasm from this: just a fullness and an overwhelming out-of-control submission feeling. I enjoy having him at my mercy, begging me to go slow. As in spanking, I like pushing him to his limits, as long as he is in no sharp pain here.

I will generally start to pick up the pace, until I go for a minute or two straight, with long deep strokes, all the way in, all the way out. In these sessions I generally like to make Evan moan out of control as much as possible. This goes on for a few minutes, then I will pull out, and I will have Evan lick me to orgasm. (I can't come from a dildo in my pussy: I need clitoral stimulation, and although the feeldoe feels good, I can't come from it.)

That's about all I have to say about pegging. As I said above, pegging is not really part of our spanking domestic-discipline arrangement. It's just a little submissive sex present for Evan every couple of months.

Here's a picture of Evan on the bench, getting ready for a spanking. I have never pegged him on the bench, because pegging and the bench don't quite go together for me, at least not yet. But this is roughly the view of Evan that I have before I start pegging him. (I have no photos of my pegging Evan.)


I look forward to your comments. Talk to you more soon,

D.

21 comments:

  1. I think it's very nice of you to oblige your husband with an occasional pegging. The enema part sounds like a good sign of your dominance.
    Your husband is very lucky.

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  2. It's nice to hear from a woman who isn't shy about what she wants. Bravo!

    (And I don't suppose you'd have a sister...?)

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  3. Hi Deirdre,
    Thanks for your post on pegging Evan. Your being in attendance while Evan is taking his enema is certainly a means of reinforcing your dominance over him. I can relate to those feelings that Evan has of submission and fullness, having been on the receiving end several times. It's not something we do often, but something my wife knows I need from time to time. She has a harness and the dildo does not penetrate her at the same time, though I've looked at the Feeldoe as an alternative. I would like for her to receive pleasure during such a session. I on the other hand can receive pleasure and achieve orgasm if the position of the dildo is hitting my prostate just right. When that happens the orgasm is mind blowing! Thanks for sharing your description. If Evan likes the feeling of penetration for its submissive aspects and you like to assert your dominance, (obviously) have you ever considered a butt plug for him? I was on a day off one time and my wife told me to insert mine and meet her for lunch somewhere public. It was a thrill for her to know she could get me to do that. Every time I moved was a reminder of being penetrated.

    Great blog. Keep up the outstanding writing.
    Rob

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  4. I love your blog.  How fortunate are you that you two have this relationship?  I am very envious of Evan. Couple of thoughts:  Does Evan ever swear during or after a session?  If so, some corner time with a bar of soap in his mouth may be warranted.  As far as your pegging goes, I read a passage about a wife who had her husband buy 3 dildos ; small medium and large.  When she wanted to punish or humiliate her husband, she would instruct him to go to the basement and attach one (whatever size she chose) to the lally column using a few clamps.  She would have him get on all fours and impale himself and rock back and forth for a specified period of time.  She would normally go down and supervise while sitting beside him and chastising him for his transgression.

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  5. Deirdre

    Wow, that is a stunning post, thank you, you two are amazing. Thanks for sharing, sounds wonderful!!!

    Thanks and be well

    Ron

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  6. D,

    You know don't respond this way, but this post was hot, thanks.
    Ron

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  7. You make quite a couple. It sounds as if you both are getting your needs met, and have the imagination to keep it all fresh. I liked how you describe pegging Evan as just a little submissive sex present for him. How sweet!

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  8. You said, "Evan's penis is much too thick for my anus (I am never having that in my bottom)". I agree with you, I would not want that either. Then you say,"I tell him that he should be willing to take a penis of the same size as he gives out, which seems fair to me."

    It does not seem fair to me, since he is not doing it to you. Why should your husband take a big one up his ass when you think it is unfair for you to do so? Is he an anal masochist, or are you an anal sadist?

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  9. Deirdre,

    It's sad that a lot of women aren't more comfortable with this sort of activity. Many men would like to be dominated, at least occasionally, but most women are squeamish about taking charge for a even a short time. As a man, I can attest that receiving a good strapping can be very cathartic, and even erotic. My current girlfriend is half-hearted about it at best, although I've told her that it isn't really hurting me. Not in a bad way, at least. And getting a good pegging from a woman doesn't make you gay, either! It's as much about the physical act as it is about giving up control for awhile.

    So congratulations to the both of you for finding a way that works, and having the nerve to give it a try in the first place.

    One ore note - do you let Evan masturbate while you peg him? A prostate massage can be lots of fun for both parties.

    Best wishes, David

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  10. Deirdre,

    Thank you for taking the time and sharing openly with us about your anal sex with Evan. I envy and admire you both, and sincerely enjoy reading your blog. I'll be interested to read how you respond to the earlier commenter who assumed that you're either an anal sadist, or he is an anal masochist. I can guess a few ways that you might respond, though I am quite sure you'll be respectful as you always have been with other commenters who seem needlessly critical or thoughtless in their remarks.

    I hope I'm not stepping out of line by offering my own opinions in the guise of guessing how you might choose to reply if at all.

    One response might deal with a definition of masochist as one who derives sexual pleasure from pain (and sadist as conversely getting pleasure from inflicting pain), in which case Evan doesn't appear to be suffering. So by definition, since Evan enjoys the experience because of the submission and overwhelming sensation, and not due to pain per se, he is not a masochist, and therefore you aren't a sadist.

    It also doesn't seem to follow that just because you have no desire to experience a penis as large as Evan's in your anus, that you are adopting a double standard by inserting a comparable size in him. First of all, your anal opening is not necessarily capable of receiving the same size as Evan's anus, so "equal size penis is not necessarily equally experienced penetration." And also, since you have no desire to submit to Evan this way, and he on the other hand does want this kind of submission, it further doesn't follow that you are sadistic by dominating him with pegging.

    Again, I'll be curious to see if and how you respond, but I for one don't see the logic in the need to accept that either he is a msasochist, or you a sadist. And even if the premise were true, I'm not sure what would make that grounds for criticism, since that would be your mutual consensual choice anyway. Finally, even if it were subject to criticism in some sense that masochism or sadism among consenting adults is inherently wrong, on what mroal grounds would a voluntary reader, who freely reads a voluntary blog about your personal experience, offer such a critique?

    Those are my guesses and opinions, and again I thank you for your openness, respectful responses to all your readers, and the opportunity to comment here.

    Regards,
    -Carl

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  11. Hello Deirdre,
    Thanks for the great posting. I'm a spanked husband but I've never been pegged. You've given me something to think about indeed. And something to hope for!
    I've always wished that my wife would give me a disciplinary enema as well as spanking. But, so far, that has not happened. I'm interested that you leave Evan to do the enema himself. I'm assuming that you don't like to personally administer the enema. I'm wondering why that is.
    Would a clitoral stimulator be a good thing on the feeldoe? I'd love it if my wife could come from pegging me. Of course I would lick her to orgasm afterwards as well.
    Thanks so much for all this information. You and Evan are just fantastic to share this way!!!

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    1. Be careful what you wish for. My wife spanks me while I'm trying to hold in an enema. It's not easy.

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  12. Deirdre-
    Thanks for yet another wonderful, insightful post about a subject many avoid. Your openness and frank approach are most refreshing.

    I, too am one of the many men fascinated with receiving my Lady's strap-on and have been fortunate enough to have had that fantasy become reality a number of times. In my fantasy version, the pegging is a form of punishment, but I believe you have come up with a concept that really describes my own reality: Its not as punishment but instead a sexual act between us that emphasizes her dominance and my submission. Much the same thing can be said about some other acts of sexual dominance and submission that we perform such as when I 'worship' her anal area.

    Thanks for your clear observations on this subject. I think you really 'pegged' it (pun intended).
    Ken
    P.S. We found a wonderful harness that has really good adjustment qualities and a place for a very small vibrator that stimulates her clitoris when she is pegging me.

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  13. Deirdre: This is a wonderful post, and I thank you for it. Is is intelligently written (as always), and is food for thought for many of us.
    I will pot a link to your posting, adn express more fully my feelings on the topic at that time. Thanks again
    Red

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  14. It is so interesting to see how you both communicate on a level that is above normal vanilla couples. I just love your open mindedness Lucky man.

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  15. It is really fantastic. I wish i could have been in Evans place and could have got heavily spanked and ass fucked by the beautiful commanding lady by this huge strapon Harsh

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  16. Thank you for sharing. I'm hoping to have Wife peg me soon. The how-to and need for enemas will be useful.
    Fingers crossed! :)

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  17. Very well written post. Thanks for sharing.

    You may want to look into one of the other strap-on models that will provide you with clitoral stimulation. Then you can fuck his ass until you orgasm.

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  18. I hope folks see this despite the thread being so old; If one wishes to use a 'strap-in' as shown here, keep an eye on the thickness of the 'for her' bulb compared to the thickness of the shaft between the 'for her' and the dildo 'for him.' You will want to try to find one with the maximum difference possible, because it's easier for the peg-er to keep the toy in God's country...

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  19. We practiced Femdom in the early 80's when it was quite kinky and taboo. We made our own toys since I was skilled with leather. My wife the first time she screwed me did it like a pro and fell into the rhythm right away screwing me to orgasm then kept going since her dildo was still hard showing her the real power of the strapon. Unlike me coming fast the dikdo can last all night. She believed in whipping first and screwing after to complete the dominance. After doing me she demanded oral satisifaction to multiple orgasms.

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